Five standards. All of them enforced.

1. Be honest

Your age, marital status, intentions and photographs must be current and true. Dishonesty about being legally free to date is the fastest way out of this community.

2. Be respectful

Disagreement is fine. Contempt is not. No comments about appearance, caste, religion, disability, income or family that you would not make to someone you respected.

3. Ask, then act

Consent applies to introductions, contact details, physical contact and second dates. An absent no is not a yes.

4. Be discreet

What another member tells you over dinner is theirs. Do not screenshot, forward, post or repeat it. Do not attempt to identify a member online before meeting.

5. Be reliable

Show up, or tell us in good time. A member's evening is not a placeholder. Repeated no-shows remove you from curation.

Enforcement

• First minor breach: a direct conversation with your concierge.
• Any breach involving safety, honesty or money: immediate removal, no refund.
• Removed members cannot re-register under another name; verification prevents it.
• Serious matters are reported to the appropriate authorities.